So many times we look at happy, smiling couples on social media and start to wonder why our relationship isn’t like theirs or question how we can make ours better. After divorce, do we have the tools we need to accept new challenges, enjoy dating and actually have a meaningful relationship?

Most everyone who is dating is uncertain about getting into a new relationship. After a long term relationship that ended badly, there are so many things you just can’t control when you start dating someone new. For starters, you can’t control someone else’s heart when you’re struggling with the fear of being vulnerable or rejected. According to Tony Robbins, “uncertainty of love is where we find the most meaningful opportunities for connection.”

If you’re dating or in a new relationship and it feels like things are on-again-off-again, small things feel like a big deal, or you’re just not communicating, how can we teach ourselves not to sweat the small stuff and overcome that innate urge to self protect?

Tune in tonight when we talk when we talk candidly with columnist, coach and Jewish thought expert Debbie Greenblatt about overcoming uncertainty and the obstacles to finding your last first date.