Jews from around the world are gathering together with friends and family to start a sweet new year. For many, ushering in the new year requires a heavy dose of reflective thinking in order to move away from the behavior that led us to the desire to change in the first place.
A recent article in the Jerusalem Post says a study conducted by dating service app Bumble, found that two-thirds of Israeli singles have suffered from what has been coined as ‘single-shaming,’ or “negatively judging somebody for not being partnered up and not conforming to society’s expectations…of being married at a certain age,” according to New York City-based psychotherapist Allison Abrams.
If you suffer from dating anxiety, have negative thoughts, or feel pressured over your relationship status, how can you forgive yourself for what transpired in your past relationship and move forward? According to Rabbi Daniel Schonbuch, a licensed marriage therapist and an expert in coaching singles, the laborious task of swipe based and online dating has caused higher levels of depression, anxiety and distress among singles.
Tonight on Jewish Singles Radio, Rabbi Schonbuch offers advice for singles who feel helpless, unlovable, and uncomfortable when asked about their love life by family members. “As we approach the New Year, focus less on finding ‘the one’ and more on finding yourself,” says Schonbuch. “Practice positive affirmations, kind self-talk, and focus on things that make you feel good.”
I believe the important thing to remember at this time of years is that all of the liturgy and rituals are designed to help us prepare for a strong year ahead. The ultimate goal for us all is a good year, and a healing experience, where we make our peace with each other and with God. May you all have better dating experiences, an amazing Yom Kippur, and a blessed year ahead. Shana Tova!
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